We’ve all thought about it, haven’t we? Having sex in the shower with a partner is straight out of a film - sexy shower sex scenes are definitely memorable! But is shower sex as easy and sexy as it looks?
In this guide, we’ll cover some shower sex tips before playing in the water with your partner.
Do put the heating on
Sounds silly doesn’t it? We’ve all had the experience of being in a nice warm shower and bracing ourselves for the cold air that awaits once the water stops flowing. Naturally, when there are two… or more (we won’t judge) in the shower at once, getting bumped into that cold stream of air is more likely.
The shock will always be there but you can limit it by turning on your heating beforehand. This way, you’ll be slightly warmer should you momentarily be without warm water during your sexual experience.
Don’t use soap
If there's one thing that everyone knows about soap, it's that it’s slippery! Naturally then, if you’re trying to get it on in the shower, soap is the last thing you want to be dealing with.
This isn’t some cheesy Saturday night television comedy after all, slipping and sliding all over the place thanks to a pesky bar of soap. You’re trying to feel sexy and focus on what you’re doing – so, ditch the soap when enjoying shower sex.
Shower gel is great for getting nice and clean before a big night out, but it definitely does not make a substitute for lube. Don’t even go there. The same goes for shampoo and conditioner. It’s a no from us.
Do pick the right lube
Speaking of, what is the best lube for the shower? There’s definitely a fine art to choosing the right shower lube. Yes, even in the shower you may want a little help to make sure you are as slippery as you’d like to be – in the right places, of course!
The challenge pops up when picking a lube. Whether you want to use water-based lube or a silicone-based product, due to the fact that you’re in the shower, you’ll need to reapply more frequently than you would in the dry. After all, water is not a substitute for lube and the comfort, pleasure and safety of you and your partner is important.
However, safety first: be aware of any spillages. Lube may be fun while you’re getting it on, but it doesn’t mix well with smooth surfaces like shower cubicles and baths. Be sure to clean up any spillages or you might need a trip to A&E. Try explaining how you got your concussion to the nurses.
Don’t stress too much
Having sex in the shower probably isn’t going to be easy or perfect the first time around. If you’re trying it out and find that it really isn’t working for you then don’t be afraid to move somewhere else.
Take it to the bedroom (or another room) and enjoy your time together there, rather than trying to make it work in the bathroom. There’s always the option to try it again when you’re feeling a little more adventurous.
Do use condoms in the shower
Remember to always practice safe sex and use a condom – it is an important aspect of sex regardless of where you are doing it. Even in the shower, where admittedly it may be more difficult to put on, a condom should be used. Remember to put on the condom before the penis becomes wet to avoid it slipping off.
For sex in the shower, any of our condoms are suitable, just ensure you have a secure, yet comfortable fit before engaging in any sexual activity!*
Do try these shower sex positions
Beginner: Standing Doggy Style
After gaining a good footing, place your palms against the shower wall, leaning forward slightly to allow your partner to enter you from behind. It works well because there’s security against the wall and against your partner – perfect for shower sex novices.
Beginner: The Wraparound
Stand with your back against the shower cubicle with your partner standing up facing you. Lift one leg and wrap it around your partner’s waist – they can hold your leg for support and put their other hand on your waist to support you further.
Advanced: The Hot Seat
If you’re lucky enough to have a seat or bench inside your shower, take advantage of it! Ask your partner to sit down, as you lower yourself down on top of them. You can either do this facing each other or away from each other. Don’t try this on something less sturdy, like the side of a bath for instance - it might not end well!
Advanced: Lift And Carry
As you stand facing each other, get your partner to lift you up as you wrap your legs around their waist. As they support you with their hands under your bum or around your waist, you can lean back against the shower cubicle as you move together. Always practice this position on dry land before attempting it in the shower.
Use our advice and not only will you have a steamy session, you’ll spare yourself the embarrassment of a trip to the hospital, too. These shower sex tips are ideal if you’re on a weekend away in a hotel with a lovely big shower room. If you’re nervous about trying shower sex but still want to have the experience and are blessed with a big enough bath, this could be an ideal alternative. Have fun!
*Oil based lubricants can damage latex condoms.