Sexual confidence can have a big impact on the state of connection between partners. If you feel self-conscious during sex, you are not alone. Sex can elicit a wide range of concerns, including those related to body image and sexual inexperience.

According to one survey, 82% of men and 91% of women don't always feel confident about their bodies during sex, while 86% of men and 89% of women don't always feel confident in their sexual ability. We've created guides to foster compassionate best sex positions even in lack of sexual confidence. 

Best sex positions for low confidence

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1- Missionary

Why Does This Position Work?

In the traditional missionary model, the receptive partner lies on their back. The insertive partner is lying on top. Your bodies will be right up against one another and face to face, which means your partner will not see much of your body, according to sex therapist Melinda DeSeta, LMHC.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • According to sex educator Luna Matatas, this position provides eye contact, closeness, and emotional intimacy.
  • Lube can help to make the sexual encounter more comfortable and allow for smoother movement.

2- Reverse cowgirl

Why Does This Position Work?

The sexual position in which the receptive partner sits on top of the insertive partner while facing away from them. It's a variation on the cowgirl position. The receiving partner has control over speed and depth; in this posture, they do not need to face each other to express themselves.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • The insertive partner can use their hands to help lift or hold them up the receiving partner while thrusting upward, making movements easier and more comfortable.
  • The receiving partner can choose the most comfortable motion because they have complete control.

3- Doggy style

Why Does This Position Work?

The receptive partner gets on all fours, and the insertive partner kneels behind their partner before entering. This sex position provides a non-intimidating angle with minimum eye contact, making it perfect for shy people.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Try to communicate with each other while penetrating in this position to convey your feelings and comfort, as you cannot see one another's faces.
  • Use lubricant condoms to provide a smooth and comfortable sexual experience.

4- Leapfrog

Why Does This Position Work?

The Leapfrog position is quite similar to ordinary doggie style, instead of resting on your elbows, as the receptive partner would be when practicing doggy style, you rest your chest and head on the bed. This sex position provides minimum eye contact, making it perfect for shy couples.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Try to talk to convey your feelings and comfort, as you cannot see one another's faces.
  • For added comfort, rest your head on a pillow.

5- Spooning

Why Does This Position Work?

For another position in which neither partner's body is overly exposed. For this sex position, both partners must lie on their sides, facing the same direction. Your insertive partner will be behind you and will have to enter you.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Talk with your partner about the pace and pressure of making and feeling comfortable.
  • Use cushions to grip for the partner being penetrated.

6- Lotus

Why Does This Position Work?

The Lotus position consists of the insertive partner sitting erect and the receptive partner sitting on their partner's thighs, facing them, hugging each other. This intimate posture focusses on connection and rhythm.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Keep the movements mild and synchronized and try to understand the emotions.
  • Condoms can improve the safety and comfort of intimate relationships.

7- Jockey Sex Position

Why Does This Position Work?

While the receptive partner lies face down on the bed, the insertive partner uses their knees to straddle both sides of her waist. This sex position allows you to face away from each other, hiding your expression and nervousness.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Place cushions or pillows beneath the laying partner's hips to provide a more pleasant and ergonomic experience.
  • The insertive partner can lean back slightly or bend forward for more comfort and stabilize movements.

8- Back Seat Driver Position

The insertive partner simply sits and enables the other receptive partner to sit in their lap, looking in one direction. This sex position allows you to face away from each other, hiding your expression and fear.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Talk with your partner about the pace and pressure of making and feeling comfortable.
  • To allow for effortless movement and comfort, the insertive partner can use their hands to help lift or hold them up while thrusting upward.

9- Rear Entry Sex Position

If your little penis size causes your concerns in bed, consider trying the Rear Entry position. Because this position allows your partner to pull her legs together as tightly as she wishes, she can squeeze even a very small penis to maximize enjoyment for both of you.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • Lubricant may make every sexual position more comfortable.
  • Exploring the props, pillows, bolsters, and wedges can all help you relax and support your joints while having sex.

10- Sofa Surprise

The Sofa Surprise allows the insertive partner to sit on a sofa or a large armless chair just as would normally. Facing them, the receptive partner squats on their lap, pushing hips back and forth.

Tips to Enhance Comfort:

  • To allow for effortless movement and comfort, the insertive partner can use their hands to help lift or hold them up while thrusting upward.
  • Talk with your partner about the pace and pressure of making and feeling comfortable.

Additional tips for building confidence in the bedroom

  • Communicate Openly: Communication is the most effective way to express your emotions, whether they are fear or desires, in order to create trust and maintain a joyful intimacy experience.
  • Set the Mood: Before embarking on the most thrilling voyage, set the tone with your partner by using dim lights, adding love fragrance, wearing sexy lingerie’s, or sending some wicked messages to create the most comfortable environments.
  • Focus on Pleasure, Not Performance: Concentrate on the sensation and technique rather than the performance.
  • Use Enhancers: Use Durex products to bring some change or make your sex life more comfortable, with condoms and lubricants.
  • Practice Body Positivity: Appreciate your body and its abilities instead of focusing on perceived flaws. 

Improved self-confidence leads to greater sex, which begins with recognizing your comfort zones and taking little efforts to embrace vulnerability. Focus on low-pressure sex positions mentioned above and use lube such as Durex lube and condoms to make your sex life more comfortable and confident while keeping safety in mind. Remember that open communication and trust are the ultimate elements for successful intimacy.