The stereotype that we have in South African society about males and sex is that men want sex or men are always in the mood for sex. However, the reality of male sexual desire is significantly more complex and varied than this too simplistic assumption implies.

To understand it, you must first understand the specifics of male sexual desires. That is why we have compiled the most researched facts from global health organizations to provide the most comprehensive results. 

Understanding male sexual desire

Male sexual desire is characterized by a combination of biological, psychological, sexual, relational, and cultural factors. Men's sex drive can decline and fluctuate with age, and each guy has various experiences or interests that change throughout their lives.

Biological factors like testosterone play an important role in increasing male libido. Other factors that can influence a man's sexual drive include age, health issues, and medications. When it comes to physical causes, stress, anxiety, depression, body image issues, and relationship concerns all have a role in reducing sexual desire. Along with social facts such as societal expectations and relationship dynamics, pressure can have an impact.

Factors influencing male interest in sex

Several key factors can impact a man's interest in sexual activity, including:

Psychological Factors:

Physical Factors:

Lifestyle Factors:

Common myths about male sexuality

Myth: Men are always ready and eager to have sex.

Fact: There are many times when both men and women may not feel like having sex or aren’t in the mood. While the male hormone testosterone can create the expectation for men to perform even when they don’t want to, this can add unnecessary pressure. This doesn’t mean men are always interested in sex. Women also experience sexual desires, but they might suppress them due to shyness, while men are often more open about expressing theirs.

Myth: Using alcohol or marijuana is a stimulant.

Fact: Alcohol and marijuana may boost desire and make you want to do things, but they also put you at risk of doing something you're not comfortable with or doing something to someone else that they aren't completely comfortable with. Furthermore, alcohol and marijuana reduce blood flow to the genital area, which can impair sexual performance by making it difficult to sustain an erection or have an orgasm.

Myth: There is no sexual activity after the age of 60.

Fact: It is a misconception, while hormonal changes at this age can decrease male libido and sexual activity. According to a survey, older adults remain sexually active.

Myth: Men think about sex all day long.

Fact: A recent Ohio State University research of nearly 200 students debunks the prevalent idea that men think about sex every seven seconds. That would be 8,000 thoughts in 16 waking hours! The young males in the study had sex-related thoughts 19 times per day on average. The young ladies in the research had an average of ten thoughts about sex every day.

Myth: Does size matter?

Fact: Our cultural beliefs on penis size come from the fact that young people who view pornography believe that large penises are natural and more pleasant. Federico, a relationship and sexual empowerment coach, says this is all a myth. "In my experience, I've discovered that women aren't as concerned about their size as popular culture suggests."

Myth: Men don’t suffer from STIs.

Fact: A sexually transmitted infection (STI), which arises when germs affect the men genital areas. It can transmit from the woman's vagina if it is already infected, thus using a condom from a recognized and trusted brand can provide the safest and STI-free intercourse.

When men might not be interested in sex?

Men, just like women, have times when they’re not interested in sex:

  • Exhaustion: Overwork, stress, and a lack of sleep leave little time for thinking about or expressing interest in sex.
  • Relationship Issues: Misunderstanding, discovering your partner's cheating, or a lack of feelings for each other can all dampen the desire.
  • Body image: If you are shy or worried about what your partner may think of your size, color, or appearance, body dissatisfaction can decrease desire of having sex.
  • Medical issues: Heart disease, diabetes, and other forms of chronic discomfort, such as hormone imbalance, can all interfere with sexual desire.
  • Past Experiences: Thinking about a previous bad experience can lower sex desire.

Finally, understanding men's sex desires can lead to a happy and long-lasting relationship for the couple. Respect each other's consent and strive to communicate what is causing the lack of desire for sex in order to create the healthiest sexual environment possible.

Remember that in any kind of sexual activity, it is critical to enjoy the sex in the most delightful way possible while also prioritizing safety. Don't forget to seek professional assistance when needed.