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Gay Sex Basics

There's no golden rule of gay sex, any more than there is with straight sex. Everyone has their own desires. However, understanding the basics will help ensure you have the most satisfying time ever.

  1. Don't assume. Many people automatically equate gay sex with anal sex but not everyone who is gay enjoys it (and indeed, many straight people do enjoy it). Sexuality is no indication of specific sexual preferences. Always ask a partner what they're into rather than thinking they'll enjoy the same things that you do.
  2. Be safe: Oral transmission of STIs is on the increase, including gonorrhea and syphilis, so condoms aren't just for anal sex. Stock up on flavoured condoms as well as extra safe to make sure you're fully equipped.
  3. Be sexy: There's no need for condoms to be boring. Try putting one on with your mouth, or using one hand to caress your man's balls while the other slips the condom in place.
  4. Be secure: Penises vary in size and shape but if you compare yourself to your partner, it's unlikely to lead to a fun time in bed. Whether you're bigger or smaller than your lover doesn't matter: it's the fun you can have together that counts.
  5. Be confident. If a guy tries to insist on bare backing, tell him no glove, no love.
  6. Want to expand your oral repertoire? Lying on your back on the bed with your head dangling over the edge will open up the throat making it easier to entertain a well endowed man.
  7. Use lube. Great for massage and hand jobs, lube is also essential if you want to explore anal play.
  8. Explore different techniques. Just because you like something, it doesn't mean a lover will. Try different oral techniques and ways of using your hands to pleasure your lover.
  9. Better yet, masturbate in front of each other. That way you'll see what you both enjoy.
  10. Know your limits. Sex isn't about endurance. If a partner is too big for you, don't feel obliged to take it all.

"Gender aside, sexuality is no indication of sexual preference."