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50 Shades of Better Sex

Have better sex

Are you and your partner on the quest for better sex? Generally people are satisfied with the usual 'vinilla sex'. That being said, when someone's curiosity is piqued, as the result of a popular movie for example - they want to know more about 'kink'. This may include things like dressing up in outfits, bondage to anal play and more.

Often seen as taboo - there is nothing wrong with kink and no one should be negatively judged based on thier fantasies. That being said, start gradually when it comes to sharing your fantasies with your partner. If spanking excites you, then ask your lover for a slap on the bum during sex – it's often easier in the heat of the moment – to test their reaction to such kinky actions. Should bondage appeal to you, start by asking your lover to pin you down during sex. And if you like latex, show them an outfit online and ask what they think

Erotic stories can be a great way to communicate your desires in a subtle way. Buy your lover a sexy book that includes the kink that turns you on, and ask them to show or read you the bits they like (if any) out loud.

That being said, if you're sure that your partner is willing to try something kinky, then be direct about your desires. Ask if there's anything new they'd like to try and tell them what appeals to you. By listening to your lover's intimate thoughts, being non-judgmental and thinking about making their dreams come true (assuming you don't find their kinks a turn off); you're more likely to get a positive response to your own kinky ideas.

"Erotic stories can be a great way to communicate your desires in a subtle way"

If you and your partner are keen on trying out BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism and masochism), then start off in mild way, set a safe word (a word which if mentioned will out an end to it all). This is a word you wouldn't usually use during sex (some people like to use 'no' and 'stop' during kinky play as part of a 'scene'). Many people opt for a traffic light system with red meaning stop, amber meaning slow down and green meaning 'go for it'.

Keep play safe, sane and consensual. This means reading up more on any safety guidelines (almost every type of kink has safety information online), avoiding doing anything while either partner is under the influence of drink or drugs and only exploring things that you both want to.

If anal play excites yo, then use generous amounts of lube, start off slowly and make sure you keep it safe. Both men and women can enjoy it, as long as there is mutual desire to do it.  So don't feel bad about trying different roles.

Kink can be a wonderful way to spice up your relationship, increase levels of intimacy, acceptance and trust. If yuo and your partner approach it in the right way and who knows where it might lead. Our range of sex toys, lubes and massage gels may make your kinky sexual experience even more fun.